“There are millions of Americans who are clever and fearless, but the trouble is they are only four years old.”~ Author Unknown
Fear is an emotion that we all have, but we have been taught to fear it so much that we even wind up fearing fear itself. So we stuff it down, pretend we don’t have it. We pretend we don’t have it by distracting ourselves with reading about other people’s lives on Facebook, by having another glass of wine, or another piece of chocolate to distance ourselves from what we are really feeling inside.
When we put all of our energy towards pushing away fear instead of allowing it to just be what it is, we miss the real moment that is happening now. The best way to overcome your fears is to dive into fear itself. Let her shake you. Let her teach you something about yourself. Release judgement. We criticize ourselves for having fear because we are attempting to control ourselves. We feel like we can’t control the world itself, so we turn our control inward. Guess what?
Criticizing yourself and your fears won’t control anything. It’s only by feeling fear fully and embracing her that you can offer her love and see her for the messenger she really is. Fear is usually just a messenger that you are moving out of your comfort zone. You are growing, and changes are coming. If you truly dive into your fears, you can watch her change and expand into adventure and excitement instead of a constricted resisting.
Your heart wants you to detox the layers of fear you have built up, that you have avoided. The best way to do this is to put your attention on it. Allow it to be. Breathe deeply and sit with it. Pay attention to the emotions that arise in your body. Yes, there may be tears. There may be anger or grief. In the end, you will feel a lightness come over your being as you move into a space of unlimited potential and trust. The more you do this, the less you will fear in the first place. Your intuition will become stronger as you become more aware of what truly needs to be feared.
You will feel a new lightness in your being and you will have more energy to create your dreams, energy that you didn’t use to block your feelings in the first place. So go ahead, don’t be afraid of the dark night of the soul. The birds will still be waiting to sing for you come morning.
Eating Fear by Valen Dawson
at the thought of it banished forever
but the fear was deep into the bottom of her
tried to seduce her
fear isn’t for
must be tasted all
she burned a candle down
let the hot wax sear into her fingers
and she invited fear
to the table
And she sucked
and she savored
with ravenous hunger
its juices on her quivering tongue.
She gnawed its bones
then slurped the marrow from the center
She listened to fear moan
and sang along to pain
allowed fear to burn her lips
surrendered to fear awakening her
to the taste of all things
she had tried to avoid
She licked the edges
and the crumbs
and the last
she let the flavors melt on her tongue
fears howls became her howls
Her tongue brushed her own lips gently
the fear expressed fully was spent